AND BOY OH BOY IS IT MESSSY!!!!!! -_____- it practically INSPIRED this post !
For the sake of keeping their identities anonymous, I shall call my friend "amanda" and the guy "bonah"
Amanda likes this guy, Bonah. A lot of girls find him cute-looking. He's a bit of a playboy type.
You know what I mean. Jumps around frm girl to girl. Doesn't quite settle down and devote himself. HAHAHAHA excuse me. I enjoy randomly embedding glitter graphics. Why? BECAUSE I CAN :PPP !
So - Amanda is crushed!!!!! She is in a HUGE dilemma right now! Wait around for Bonah and sees if he's willing to commit? Or just forget it and move on?
Well, I personally think Bonah IS NOT worth the wait and suffering for -____- I think he's a little douchey. I mean, I get he wants to protect her feelings - BUT DON'T LEAVE HER HANGING BRO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You either draw the line and say just be friends, OR YOU COMMIT, HEAD TO TOE DAMN IT!!!!!!
DO NOT LEAVE THE POOR GIRL DANGLING - WONDERING WHETHER OR NOT SHE SHOULD WAIT FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So now for the ladies - how many of us have ourselves in some kind of similar situation? Where the relationship just becomes PLAIN AWKWARD and you two don't know how to move on from there?!??!?! Or when it just becomes one - sided, when one person wants to commit but the other doesn't?
This is SO SO SO SO important - keep in touch with the guy! I CANNOT STRESS THIS ONE ENOUGH! If you want any hopes for a relationship to ensue, YOU MUST KEEP COMMUNICATING ! It is better to stay friends than to completely ignore each other and let things FALL APART AND BECOME SUPER AWKWARD!
This is the ONE CRITICAL THING Amanda had failed to do with Bonah. They lost touch over a summer and now Bonah's facebook page is full of douche baggy photos of him with other chicks in teeny weeny bikinies
-___- cough cough *whores*
My inner camwhore self says: US WOMEN DESERVE NOTHING LESS THAN THE BEST !
US WOMEN DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE GODDESSES. IF UR MAN MAKES U FEEL ANYTHING LESS THAN SPECIAL, MAKE HIM REGRET HIS STUPIDITY ! *SHAKES FIST*
HWAITING !!!!!!
Questions? Comments? Complaints (har har) ?
Lemme know in the comment box down below ! :) feel free to share ur stories and past situations you've faced.
Thanks for reading <3 !
Until the next post,
Love,
Doll <3333
*OOPS ALMOST FORGOT: KISSES TO Y'ALL *MWAH MWAH*
You know what I mean. Jumps around frm girl to girl. Doesn't quite settle down and devote himself. HAHAHAHA excuse me. I enjoy randomly embedding glitter graphics. Why? BECAUSE I CAN :PPP !
Ok so Amanda is obsessed with this douche, Bonah. They text and flirt and sh*t, AND HE KNOWS SHE LIKES HIM. A WHOLE F*CKING LOT!
They still flirt. Amanda (whose a little airheaded I must say, no offense) muster up the guts and asks him out. That's how much she likes him that she's the one willing to risk the humiliation of REJECTION.
He tells her that he's part of "some church group" or some sh*t like that whose policy DOES NOT ALLOW THE MEMBERS TO DATE AND BE IN RELATIONSHIPS. or some kinda f*ck along those lines.
so my friend, dejected forces herself to believe that obvious f*cking lie (it WAS a lie btw, he's not even in that church group anymore -___-) and swallows it down, trying to deny the fact that he doesn't really like her back.
WHY DOESN'T HE LIKE HER BACK?
I've read their some of their mushy, flirty texts, AND I KNOW HE PROBABLY SUBCONSCIOUSLY DO LIKE HER TO SOME DEGREE!!!!
BUT HE DOESN'T COMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So - Amanda is crushed!!!!! She is in a HUGE dilemma right now! Wait around for Bonah and sees if he's willing to commit? Or just forget it and move on?
Well, I personally think Bonah IS NOT worth the wait and suffering for -____- I think he's a little douchey. I mean, I get he wants to protect her feelings - BUT DON'T LEAVE HER HANGING BRO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You either draw the line and say just be friends, OR YOU COMMIT, HEAD TO TOE DAMN IT!!!!!!
DO NOT LEAVE THE POOR GIRL DANGLING - WONDERING WHETHER OR NOT SHE SHOULD WAIT FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NOT knowing hurts more than the friendzone card! Not ever settling things will always leave the question "WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN" lingering in her mind!!!!! It will nag her and always make her wistful and regretful and contemplating the what-could-have-been possibilites >:(
Warning for guys: Don't cut things off randomly - remember: friendzone or devotion ! PICK ONE!!!!
Warning for guys: Don't cut things off randomly - remember: friendzone or devotion ! PICK ONE!!!!
So now for the ladies - how many of us have ourselves in some kind of similar situation? Where the relationship just becomes PLAIN AWKWARD and you two don't know how to move on from there?!??!?! Or when it just becomes one - sided, when one person wants to commit but the other doesn't?
FEAR NOT! DOLL IS HERE TO GIVE YOU ADVICE . BECAUSE EVERY GIRL NEEDS A BEST GIRLFRIEND TO WATCH THEIR BACKS. EXCUSE MY SAPPINESS.
STEP 1) ASK YOURSELF: ARE U SURE YOU STILL WANT HIM?
BE CLEAR AND TRUTHFUL TO YOURSELF, AND ASK YOURSELF THIS :
YOU MUST CLARIFY THESE POINTS FIRST AND MAKE SURE WITH URSELF THAT U STILL ARE COMMITTED TO HIM !!!!!!! ONLY THEN CAN U MOVE ONTO THE NEXT STEP!
STEP 2) COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE !!!!!!!
BE CLEAR AND TRUTHFUL TO YOURSELF, AND ASK YOURSELF THIS :
DO YOU THINK HE IS WORTH THE WAIT?
WOULD YOU EVER REGRET IT IF YOU LET HIM GO?
DO YOU GET JEALOUS WHEN YOU SEE HIM WITH OTHER GIRLS??????
YOU MUST CLARIFY THESE POINTS FIRST AND MAKE SURE WITH URSELF THAT U STILL ARE COMMITTED TO HIM !!!!!!! ONLY THEN CAN U MOVE ONTO THE NEXT STEP!
STEP 2) COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE !!!!!!!
This is SO SO SO SO important - keep in touch with the guy! I CANNOT STRESS THIS ONE ENOUGH! If you want any hopes for a relationship to ensue, YOU MUST KEEP COMMUNICATING ! It is better to stay friends than to completely ignore each other and let things FALL APART AND BECOME SUPER AWKWARD!
This is the ONE CRITICAL THING Amanda had failed to do with Bonah. They lost touch over a summer and now Bonah's facebook page is full of douche baggy photos of him with other chicks in teeny weeny bikinies
-___- cough cough *whores*
*ppsss i saw those pictures NOT bcuz im a crazy obsessed stalker NOR do i like him, but bcuz amanda insisted that i go look at his schedule (which was posted on his fb page) bcuz apprently its the same as mine
-___-'' she kept harping about how jealous she was of my schedule. i swear, IM NOT A STALKER NOR DO I LIKE BONAH. This is rele awkward to explain.*
Anyhoes, communication with the guy is CRUCIAL. Let him get to know you even more, show him why you'd be a good girlfriend ! Keep the conversation casual for the most part, like chatting about homework, friends, etc. Bring up relations LATER.
-___-'' she kept harping about how jealous she was of my schedule. i swear, IM NOT A STALKER NOR DO I LIKE BONAH. This is rele awkward to explain.*
Anyhoes, communication with the guy is CRUCIAL. Let him get to know you even more, show him why you'd be a good girlfriend ! Keep the conversation casual for the most part, like chatting about homework, friends, etc. Bring up relations LATER.
STEP 3) FIND OUT WHY HE DOESN'T WANT TO COMMIT!
Ask around - get your friends to ask him, or ask his friends. Or get your friends to ask his friends. ETC ETC ETC.
If you have the guts to confront it to him urself, then u must RELE like him............
Amanda, btw, DID in fact confront him about it, which is why he gave her his bs church group excuse -__-
Sometimes, guys don't want to commit because:
Situation A) they have been hurt in past relationships and are afraid of having their heart crushed again
Situation B) they are tired and have much to deal with and don't really want to be in a relationship
Situation C) he's a douchey playboy who just doesn't want to settle down :/
STEP 4) Now you've figured out his motive :
If the guy is:
Situation A) This particular one not very likely, but if this is the case, be gentle and supportive, and tell him that you are committed enough to never hurt him. Keep up friendly interactions and hang out with him often. He will eventually open up to you if you can prove to be a trustworthy potential girlfriend!
Situation B) If this is the case, back off and give him some space and time to settle down. Be supportive like a friend and wait till he's ready. Listen and give him advice.
Situation C) As this was the case with Amanda, I suggest this simple and straightforward solution: DITCH HIM. A guy who's not even interested in being in a serious relationship will NOT be a faithful boyfriend ! He will give you sh*tload of grief. TRUST ME - that kind of person is not worth the drama nor the heartache and IS SOOOO NOT WORTH UR TIME !!!!!!!!
DO NOT LET A STUPID HARE-BRAINED MAN MESS U UP!!!!!!!! >:( Amanda, btw, DID in fact confront him about it, which is why he gave her his bs church group excuse -__-
Sometimes, guys don't want to commit because:
Situation A) they have been hurt in past relationships and are afraid of having their heart crushed again
Situation B) they are tired and have much to deal with and don't really want to be in a relationship
Situation C) he's a douchey playboy who just doesn't want to settle down :/
STEP 4) Now you've figured out his motive :
If the guy is:
Situation A) This particular one not very likely, but if this is the case, be gentle and supportive, and tell him that you are committed enough to never hurt him. Keep up friendly interactions and hang out with him often. He will eventually open up to you if you can prove to be a trustworthy potential girlfriend!
Situation B) If this is the case, back off and give him some space and time to settle down. Be supportive like a friend and wait till he's ready. Listen and give him advice.
Situation C) As this was the case with Amanda, I suggest this simple and straightforward solution: DITCH HIM. A guy who's not even interested in being in a serious relationship will NOT be a faithful boyfriend ! He will give you sh*tload of grief. TRUST ME - that kind of person is not worth the drama nor the heartache and IS SOOOO NOT WORTH UR TIME !!!!!!!!
Us girls know how precious time is. If he's not gonna look at you, he's not worth the effort! You deserve someone who likes you for you. MOVE ON AND LEAVE THAT DOUCHE BEHIND. Someday, he'll look at you go, "DAMN IT WHY DID I LET HER GO!!!!"
GIRLS - YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO MAKE UR MAN WORSHIP YOU !!!!
If he can't love you for you, WELL HELL IT'S HIS LOSS ! !!!!!
I CAN NOT STAND GIRLS WHO CRY OVER GUYS WHO DON'T RETURN THEIR FEELINGS !!!!!!!
Boo hoo hoo ! I'm PATHETIC.
WAKE UP!!!!!!!!! HOW CAN YOU BE SO PATHETIC?!??!??!?! YOU'RE STRONGER, SMARTER, AND BETTER THAN THAT!!!!!!!! HOW COULD YOU BE SO WEAK AS TO LET A GUY SCREW UP YOUR LOVE LIFE???!?!??!?!?
YOU SHOW HIM WHAT AN IDIOT HE WAS FOR NOT SEEING THE TRUE BEAUTY IN YOU. MAKE HIM REGRET IT !!!!!!!
WILL CRYING SOLVE ANYTHING?
NO!
WILL CRYING GET HIM TO LIKE YOU?
NO!
WILL CRYING DO ANYTHING AT ALL TO MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER?
NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
CRYING IS JUST PATHETIC AND A WASTE OF UR BODY'S MOISTURE !!!!!!
My inner camwhore self says: US WOMEN DESERVE NOTHING LESS THAN THE BEST !
US WOMEN DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE GODDESSES. IF UR MAN MAKES U FEEL ANYTHING LESS THAN SPECIAL, MAKE HIM REGRET HIS STUPIDITY ! *SHAKES FIST*
HWAITING !!!!!!
So I hope this post will help you guys handle ur love life better !!!! of course, in the real world, things can always turn out to be FAR more complicated than the three situations that i just listed off the top of my head.
Whatever the case is, just remember this: stay strong, keep ur head steady, and u'll go far boos
Questions? Comments? Complaints (har har) ?
Lemme know in the comment box down below ! :) feel free to share ur stories and past situations you've faced.
Thanks for reading <3 !
Until the next post,
Love,
Doll <3333
*OOPS ALMOST FORGOT: KISSES TO Y'ALL *MWAH MWAH*
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